Hi,
I wonder if anyone else has experienced an obsessive behaviour involving throwing everything away?
My 88 year old mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia earlier this year. She initially suffered from terrible confusion and some hallucinations. She had also spent time “having a good old clear out” at home which we assumed to be a need to de-clutter her house, although she had included some valuable items and also personal things such as her passport and family photos. As she is physically fit we respected her wishes to remain at home with a regular care team visiting, plus meals on wheels. By this time she was eating and drinking very little, had stopped reading and had stopped watching TV. She was still attending to her personal needs but was very unfriendly towards the carers.
Gradually, we realised that she was spending each day looking for more stuff to put in the dustbins until they were full after which she waited until the following week to continue. Each time we visited there was less in the house. Over the next month she threw away all her clothes, clocks, radio, lamps, bed linen and towels, cooking utensils, pictures and ornaments, jewellery, documents , cleaning materials and food. She switched off all appliances including the central heating/ hot water. Finally she disposed of the car keys, TV, computer, all personal documents, bedding, saucepans and the unopened mail arriving daily. All that she had left were tea bags, milk and biscuits which she went to buy at the shop. She became very angry when we tried to suggest she must stop or she wouldn’t be able to remain in her own home. It seemed like she thought she was getting ready to leave us….
However, when I took her to visit my daughter one afternoon, she proceeded to go through all the cupboards (while we were chatting) and managed to throw away clothing, medicines, food etc before we noticed!
It was inevitable that eventually we had to move her to a care home (on advice of Social Services) in August as she was at risk at home.
She has continued to throw away anything that is bought for her. She is devious enough to put things in other residents’ bins and I was just informed that they have had to put gates on resident’s doors to stop her throwing their belongings out of the window! The staff are at a loss to know what to do with her as they have not encountered this before.
The latest suggestion is that theyneed new strategies to occupy her. She is not sociable and dislikes crafts etc. Any suggestions?
I wonder if anyone else has experienced an obsessive behaviour involving throwing everything away?
My 88 year old mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia earlier this year. She initially suffered from terrible confusion and some hallucinations. She had also spent time “having a good old clear out” at home which we assumed to be a need to de-clutter her house, although she had included some valuable items and also personal things such as her passport and family photos. As she is physically fit we respected her wishes to remain at home with a regular care team visiting, plus meals on wheels. By this time she was eating and drinking very little, had stopped reading and had stopped watching TV. She was still attending to her personal needs but was very unfriendly towards the carers.
Gradually, we realised that she was spending each day looking for more stuff to put in the dustbins until they were full after which she waited until the following week to continue. Each time we visited there was less in the house. Over the next month she threw away all her clothes, clocks, radio, lamps, bed linen and towels, cooking utensils, pictures and ornaments, jewellery, documents , cleaning materials and food. She switched off all appliances including the central heating/ hot water. Finally she disposed of the car keys, TV, computer, all personal documents, bedding, saucepans and the unopened mail arriving daily. All that she had left were tea bags, milk and biscuits which she went to buy at the shop. She became very angry when we tried to suggest she must stop or she wouldn’t be able to remain in her own home. It seemed like she thought she was getting ready to leave us….
However, when I took her to visit my daughter one afternoon, she proceeded to go through all the cupboards (while we were chatting) and managed to throw away clothing, medicines, food etc before we noticed!
It was inevitable that eventually we had to move her to a care home (on advice of Social Services) in August as she was at risk at home.
She has continued to throw away anything that is bought for her. She is devious enough to put things in other residents’ bins and I was just informed that they have had to put gates on resident’s doors to stop her throwing their belongings out of the window! The staff are at a loss to know what to do with her as they have not encountered this before.
The latest suggestion is that theyneed new strategies to occupy her. She is not sociable and dislikes crafts etc. Any suggestions?