Mom has late stage, along with heart disease and swollen legs. She stopped taking her meds for about a week and all she eats are peanut butter crackers, bananas and sometimes popcorn. We were grinding her meds for two days and collective decided to stop, we know this sounds cruel, but we think that she, even though not in her right mind, has the freedom to decide her on fate.
My sisters have been trying to take care of mom over these past years. I’ve been on assignment overseas and just returned. Visited mom and dad at their house, opened the door and came close to losing my cookies.
The smell was horrific. Almost like something dead. Mom does not utilize the toilet at all, she just goes wherever. Her pants were stained with urine on the front and the back was covered in dried poop.
I have a sneaky feeling that she has bed sores, from the smell and this is because she sleeps and sits in a chair and seldom moves from it.
She will not allow anyone to clean up the downstairs, so my sister runs down the basement and cleans up while she is upstairs with my other sister’s keep here occupied for awhile.
She no longer recognizes any of us except my one sister that goes there 3 times a day every day and she is now starting to forget her as well.
My mom is one of the difficult dementia ones. Any of us would rather be lock in a cage with a puma than try to give mom a bath or sponge bath, clipping her nails or brushing her hair etc.
Us siblings think she should be in a hospice, however, dad is the legal caregiver and his mentality is that mom might get better. He’s asked all of us if we thought she would? Breaks our hearts, but we have to be strong, realistic and honest with him and tell him she will not get better daddy. It’s really worn him down, because she doesn’t know who he is anymore also.
At what stage would our mother be in at this time? We know it’s the latter stages.
Is a hospice the answer?
We know she’ll not be with us much longer, we’ve all accepted this.
This is a very horrible disease and hard to watch someone you love dearly, suffer, not knowing anything or anyone.
Any insight will be valuable and dearly appreciated.
Sorry for this book, but I think you need to know everything in order to give insight.
Thank you for your time snd support.
My sisters have been trying to take care of mom over these past years. I’ve been on assignment overseas and just returned. Visited mom and dad at their house, opened the door and came close to losing my cookies.
The smell was horrific. Almost like something dead. Mom does not utilize the toilet at all, she just goes wherever. Her pants were stained with urine on the front and the back was covered in dried poop.
I have a sneaky feeling that she has bed sores, from the smell and this is because she sleeps and sits in a chair and seldom moves from it.
She will not allow anyone to clean up the downstairs, so my sister runs down the basement and cleans up while she is upstairs with my other sister’s keep here occupied for awhile.
She no longer recognizes any of us except my one sister that goes there 3 times a day every day and she is now starting to forget her as well.
My mom is one of the difficult dementia ones. Any of us would rather be lock in a cage with a puma than try to give mom a bath or sponge bath, clipping her nails or brushing her hair etc.
Us siblings think she should be in a hospice, however, dad is the legal caregiver and his mentality is that mom might get better. He’s asked all of us if we thought she would? Breaks our hearts, but we have to be strong, realistic and honest with him and tell him she will not get better daddy. It’s really worn him down, because she doesn’t know who he is anymore also.
At what stage would our mother be in at this time? We know it’s the latter stages.
Is a hospice the answer?
We know she’ll not be with us much longer, we’ve all accepted this.
This is a very horrible disease and hard to watch someone you love dearly, suffer, not knowing anything or anyone.
Any insight will be valuable and dearly appreciated.
Sorry for this book, but I think you need to know everything in order to give insight.
Thank you for your time snd support.
