I've already posted about Ma's obsessional nature but I really am at the end of my tether and worried that I shall lose my temper with her if her constant going on about her Halifax account continues.
Ma lost her passbook (or misplaced it) a while back. As a precaution I moved the bulk of the money in that account into another one in case she'd lost it out of the house. Since March, despite my assurances, bank statements etc, she has every day, usually late a night, asked me what 'I've' done with her book, can she have her passport to go to the bank. On and on and on. The Royal Bank of Scotland, who unhelpfully keep sending her completely unintelligible investment info instead of to me as PoA, is now part of her obsession.
I've spent this lunch hour with both these banks, having them update accounts, print out statements and hand write little notes to her say, 'All's in order with your account', which I'll give to her tonight. But beyond that I don't know what I'm going to do. As she lost her passport earlier this year and getting a new one was far from straight forward there's no way I can risk giving it to her.
How do I stop her going on? I recognise that this ceaseless obsession has it's roots in deep insecurity but it's clear to me her dementia has progressed to such a degree she can't understand when I tell her she's nothing to worry about financially. How do I instil a sense of security to someone who no longer understands the thing she's so worried about?
Ma lost her passbook (or misplaced it) a while back. As a precaution I moved the bulk of the money in that account into another one in case she'd lost it out of the house. Since March, despite my assurances, bank statements etc, she has every day, usually late a night, asked me what 'I've' done with her book, can she have her passport to go to the bank. On and on and on. The Royal Bank of Scotland, who unhelpfully keep sending her completely unintelligible investment info instead of to me as PoA, is now part of her obsession.
I've spent this lunch hour with both these banks, having them update accounts, print out statements and hand write little notes to her say, 'All's in order with your account', which I'll give to her tonight. But beyond that I don't know what I'm going to do. As she lost her passport earlier this year and getting a new one was far from straight forward there's no way I can risk giving it to her.
How do I stop her going on? I recognise that this ceaseless obsession has it's roots in deep insecurity but it's clear to me her dementia has progressed to such a degree she can't understand when I tell her she's nothing to worry about financially. How do I instil a sense of security to someone who no longer understands the thing she's so worried about?