very difficult one this. My father has moderate vascular dementia, gets confused and has been picked up by the police wandering around in his pyjamas in town,he has also slapped his wife (my mother) and has proposed marriage to his daughter recently amongst many other incidents.
My mother who is 82 and not in the best of health is absolutely totally exhausted with him, and we have managed to get him into a good residential EMI home for 2 weeks respite care with the idea that it hopefully becomes a permanent arrangement.
We are now concerned that he will pass an upcoming mental capacity test as some times he can appear very lucid. a characteristic of vascular dementia.
if this happens and the CH discharge him my mother (who is his carer) has said that she will walk out and will not have him home. Her health is on the verge of going into rapid decline because of this.
we really seem to be between a rock and a hard place now. I cant see either of them entertaining the idea of live-in carers. Us children visit at weekends but cant be there the whole time.
surely any assessmsnt needs to take into account my mother's poor state of health . she has suffered with nerves and depression for years.
My mother who is 82 and not in the best of health is absolutely totally exhausted with him, and we have managed to get him into a good residential EMI home for 2 weeks respite care with the idea that it hopefully becomes a permanent arrangement.
We are now concerned that he will pass an upcoming mental capacity test as some times he can appear very lucid. a characteristic of vascular dementia.
if this happens and the CH discharge him my mother (who is his carer) has said that she will walk out and will not have him home. Her health is on the verge of going into rapid decline because of this.
we really seem to be between a rock and a hard place now. I cant see either of them entertaining the idea of live-in carers. Us children visit at weekends but cant be there the whole time.
surely any assessmsnt needs to take into account my mother's poor state of health . she has suffered with nerves and depression for years.