Mum is currently awaiting a Memory Clinic appointment and has had COPD for around 15 years. Recently the COPD and memory issues both seem to have gotten worse, to the point that any exertion makes her breathless & reason and logic seem to be on the way out. Due to the situation with her chest she's now convinced she's not going to be here in three years time. Being unable to breathe must be awful for her, but I can't help thinking her lungs or heart giving up relatively quickly & painlessly would be better than the memory issues alternative of not knowing / remembering anything or worse, the COPD possible worse case scenario of intubation & life support etc. Before I get sidetracked, are there others out there caring for someone with failing lungs and memory?