My mum is due her annual review at the memory clinic shortly. She hates it, thinking the tests are stupid and calls it an interrogation. She is rude to the nurse and consultant, and is unco-operative with all the tests. Last time when asked to write a sentence she wrote 'I don't like this stupid *****' meaning the nurse! Although her memory is poor she remembers the building and refuses to go in, then after the review it takes ages to calm her down again. The next review will be at her home. She will not allow anyone in her house except me my husband and my SIL, and will not have carers or meals on wheels, shutting the door in their face or being rude and aggressive if they let themselves in via keysafe. She self cares currently but fights us when we try to clean the house. This is not new, she has always refused visitors, even other family members and has never done housework! I need to get her assessed but need advice on how to get it done without distressing her too much. They may discharge her if the review is not carried out. She refuses to go into a home and my brother agrees with her, but only because she would be self funding and he is protecting his inheritance!