I care for my Mum who is in her early 80's, the thing is a family member would like to see put into a care home as they feel that they are not getting enough of my undivided attention and hardly see me anymore. I can't do everything and look after everyone I find this very difficult to handle at times and I am lost for words. What do I say how do I handle it. It is my choice to look after her, I do this without moaning and trust me it is strain and will only get harder I know.
Much depends on who this relation is and why they want the undivided attention.
If it's a very close relation i.e. son or daughter, that needs your attention due to pregnancy or illness, then they're justified. I will add, that as a child of a carer, we miss that relationship with our parent. We try to understand but at times, we tend to resent that person that sucks the life out of our mother/father.
If it's your partner that's objecting then you have a choice, Mum or your relationship.
Anyone else, then it's none of their business.