Sorry but I feel the need for a rant today. Having got mum to accept a carer to help with morning wash and dressing etc I feel we have made progress. Some days mum doesn't want a full wash but as long as she is hygienically clean and teeth brushed I told the carer I am happy. Very experienced carer who says that to force the issue would not be good as mum would get to dislike her. Then today my sister arrives whilst carer is present and decides mum should have full wash regardless and takes it upon herself to tell me my arrangement is not good enough ... She who visits about once a week when convenient and I am there day in day out dealing with all the trials associated with advanced dementia.