If someone has any advice about this I'd be so grateful - I am at my wits' end.
My father has Alzheimers. 40 years ago he gave up smoking, only to start again 6 months ago having forgotten he gave it up. He is now an incredibly heavy smoker.
He moved into a home 5 weeks ago after a desperate period when he still lived alone at home, with many crises and accidents. However, his smoking is causing such grave problems to the Home that they have indicated to me that unless I can do something about it he will have to be removed. He will smoke in his room and although he has been told time and time again, and big "no smoking" notices have been put up in his room, he says he will do what he damn well pleases as it is his room. He has also started to smoke openly elsewhere in the Home, even though there is a designated smoking area which up till now he's been happy to use.
He gets his cigs from a garage 100yards down the road and thought the Home staff have managed to get them off him up til now, it's obviously of grave concern to them as he's such a danger to them and himself. he gets v nasty when challenged about his smoking.
I just don't know what to do. He cannot live at home on his own; if the Home say to take hims away I just have no idea what we can do. I need to find a way of managing hs smoking, or somehow getting it into his brain that he must stop smoking in his room. We have had that conversation endlessly and he agrees - and then 5 seconds later it's gone completely.
If anyone has had experience of this type of thing I would so love to hear how you coped. Also is talking to Social services any use? The Home is private but although money is not the problem, dealing with an unpleasant man who is causing huge problems for everyone around him, is.
Many thanks.
My father has Alzheimers. 40 years ago he gave up smoking, only to start again 6 months ago having forgotten he gave it up. He is now an incredibly heavy smoker.
He moved into a home 5 weeks ago after a desperate period when he still lived alone at home, with many crises and accidents. However, his smoking is causing such grave problems to the Home that they have indicated to me that unless I can do something about it he will have to be removed. He will smoke in his room and although he has been told time and time again, and big "no smoking" notices have been put up in his room, he says he will do what he damn well pleases as it is his room. He has also started to smoke openly elsewhere in the Home, even though there is a designated smoking area which up till now he's been happy to use.
He gets his cigs from a garage 100yards down the road and thought the Home staff have managed to get them off him up til now, it's obviously of grave concern to them as he's such a danger to them and himself. he gets v nasty when challenged about his smoking.
I just don't know what to do. He cannot live at home on his own; if the Home say to take hims away I just have no idea what we can do. I need to find a way of managing hs smoking, or somehow getting it into his brain that he must stop smoking in his room. We have had that conversation endlessly and he agrees - and then 5 seconds later it's gone completely.
If anyone has had experience of this type of thing I would so love to hear how you coped. Also is talking to Social services any use? The Home is private but although money is not the problem, dealing with an unpleasant man who is causing huge problems for everyone around him, is.
Many thanks.