The other day I attended my first ever carer's meeting. I've been looking for support for over 4 years now and finally this was made available to me. During the discussion the consultant made the point that an early diagnosis can be devastating to the person with dementia. After he had finished speaking, and I could hold back no longer, and he's a perfectly nice gentleman by the way, I hit him with the question - Have you ever considered the damage it does to a couple's relationship when one of the partner has changes in their behaviour and the professionals don't seem to take it seriously? Fortunately for me another member of the group backed me up by saying she knew of a couple who had actually temporarily split up because she thought by his behaviour that he was having an affair. That made me feel so much better that he was confronted by this. Dementia affects the entire family and surely it is better for the patient if the family are knowledgeable and aware of strategies for coping. I hope he and his team act on this point of view in future.