Hello, I have used this form in the recent past and have had great advice, the only place I can come to that gives straight forward truthful views, and usually from experience. My situation at the moment is that I am a full time carer for my partner who is getting progressively worse, being doubly incontinent and his walking is reduced to a very slow shuffle, so as you can imagine I am fully occupied. Why I am writing is that my Mum also has Alzheimers,she is 90, (not so far along as my partner at the moment) my sister being the main carer - Mum lives alone with visits from sister down the street ( It seems to generally work now we have put alarms in place to alert my sister if Mum goes walkabout). My sister and I both have power of attourney in an LPA (Financial and Health) My worry is that if my sister should be ill or any other reason that means she cannot care for Mum, then I will have to take over. We are the only family that Mum has that would care for her. Of course I wouldn't be able to physically be Mum's carer but on a practical level and financially I would need access to Mum's accounts to finance any care that was needed to be paid for. At the moment my sister uses Mums card to pay for things she needs, and draws her pension for her. I have suggested that we make an appointment with the bank in order to set up 2 cards, one for each of us, and let them have sight of the LPA. she rang the bank who said 'just call in' but they would not be able to issue 2 cards. Does anyone have experience or can they recommend a helpful bank in order to sort this out.
Mum has been attending a residential home a couple of times a week with a view to moving there permanently in the future. As I have more than enough on my plate, as we all have, I need to set this up so if in the event of my sister being unable to care I won't have to firefight or jump through hoops to help Mum, when I do not have the energy or spare reserve for this. My sister is in total agreement with this.
Mum has been attending a residential home a couple of times a week with a view to moving there permanently in the future. As I have more than enough on my plate, as we all have, I need to set this up so if in the event of my sister being unable to care I won't have to firefight or jump through hoops to help Mum, when I do not have the energy or spare reserve for this. My sister is in total agreement with this.