My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's on 10 April after months of confusion and bad memory which was initially put down to depression.
I live quite a long way from her and I have one sibling who did nothing for years, but is gradually starting to help, though not exactly putting his back into it. I can't go back to where Mum is, and she refuses to come here, so I've spent a lot of time setting up support for her to stay at home as she wants to. She now has a support worker, social worker, nurses, day care for one day a week (soon to be increased) and a carer who comes in every day to help her shop and to prepare some food. The carer will soon be coming in more often to make sure she eats later in the day.
Since last week the carer has been taking her to collect her pension before going shopping with her. I know that the carer collected a month's worth of pension the first time she did this, because the caring agency informed me, and I think she's probably collected more this week. It might be as much as a month's worth each time, because Mum's pension is in serious backlog. She never goes to collect it by herself and when I was last with her there the post office told me there was a lot still waiting to be drawn - we couldn't get it all because there's a limit on how much the post office can pay in one go.
Mum squirrels the money away in silly places and when I am with her, I dig it all out and put it into the bank to pay her direct debits for utilities, care, etc, leaving her some cash for her shopping.
This week, however, I'm concerned because Mum doesn't seem able to find her pension money at all, and it must have been about £500. I rang this morning and her support worker happened to be with her. They searched all her bags - nothing - and afterwards when he'd gone Mum went to look in her favourite hidey-hole but nothing was there.
I don't want to jump to insulting conclusions about the care worker, but I can't entirely exclude it from my mind. Plus this is something of a crisis. If Mum can't turn up the cash, she won't be able to pay for her shopping call tomorrow. She isn't allowed to pay for it by cheque, it has to be cash in advance.
I don't know what to do...![Confused :confused: :confused:](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
I live quite a long way from her and I have one sibling who did nothing for years, but is gradually starting to help, though not exactly putting his back into it. I can't go back to where Mum is, and she refuses to come here, so I've spent a lot of time setting up support for her to stay at home as she wants to. She now has a support worker, social worker, nurses, day care for one day a week (soon to be increased) and a carer who comes in every day to help her shop and to prepare some food. The carer will soon be coming in more often to make sure she eats later in the day.
Since last week the carer has been taking her to collect her pension before going shopping with her. I know that the carer collected a month's worth of pension the first time she did this, because the caring agency informed me, and I think she's probably collected more this week. It might be as much as a month's worth each time, because Mum's pension is in serious backlog. She never goes to collect it by herself and when I was last with her there the post office told me there was a lot still waiting to be drawn - we couldn't get it all because there's a limit on how much the post office can pay in one go.
Mum squirrels the money away in silly places and when I am with her, I dig it all out and put it into the bank to pay her direct debits for utilities, care, etc, leaving her some cash for her shopping.
This week, however, I'm concerned because Mum doesn't seem able to find her pension money at all, and it must have been about £500. I rang this morning and her support worker happened to be with her. They searched all her bags - nothing - and afterwards when he'd gone Mum went to look in her favourite hidey-hole but nothing was there.
I don't want to jump to insulting conclusions about the care worker, but I can't entirely exclude it from my mind. Plus this is something of a crisis. If Mum can't turn up the cash, she won't be able to pay for her shopping call tomorrow. She isn't allowed to pay for it by cheque, it has to be cash in advance.
I don't know what to do...