Hello all,
my OH and wife of nearly 30 years was diagnosed with “mild Alzheimer’s” last year. One of the issues that led to this was described by the local Mental Health Team as “loss of my recognition”. Having read loads of stuff from both the Alzheimer’s web site and other sources, and some books I understand the basics of what is going on here, she is losing (currently on a temporary basis) enough memory to no longer properly recognise who I am. There has been a change recently in that I used to be able to work out from things said in rough terms “who I am” and try and react accordingly, however all the past men in her life of any significance now have my full name…
This means working out answers and trying to frame everything “in her current space” has suddenly become very difficult. Today I have got it all really wrong, twice, which unfortunately raises the temperature and her anxiety… Alongside this I didn’t spot the problem of “loss of my identity” until the question came “so where are you living now?”. I am probably the worlds worst person at telling lies, and she still sees straight through anything made up… However the answer “here” is a no go as is my previous history as she quickly asks for addresses and who was I living with (even if it was my OH, saying that is well out of bounds). I have tried the “between places” and could I stay and help for a while as you seem to be by yourself, that doesn’t work either…
A break (I am sat in a coffee shop writing this) used to work but has been less successful recently…
Has anybody got any other ideas?
Thanks to everybody who posts on this forum
TonyDB
my OH and wife of nearly 30 years was diagnosed with “mild Alzheimer’s” last year. One of the issues that led to this was described by the local Mental Health Team as “loss of my recognition”. Having read loads of stuff from both the Alzheimer’s web site and other sources, and some books I understand the basics of what is going on here, she is losing (currently on a temporary basis) enough memory to no longer properly recognise who I am. There has been a change recently in that I used to be able to work out from things said in rough terms “who I am” and try and react accordingly, however all the past men in her life of any significance now have my full name…
This means working out answers and trying to frame everything “in her current space” has suddenly become very difficult. Today I have got it all really wrong, twice, which unfortunately raises the temperature and her anxiety… Alongside this I didn’t spot the problem of “loss of my identity” until the question came “so where are you living now?”. I am probably the worlds worst person at telling lies, and she still sees straight through anything made up… However the answer “here” is a no go as is my previous history as she quickly asks for addresses and who was I living with (even if it was my OH, saying that is well out of bounds). I have tried the “between places” and could I stay and help for a while as you seem to be by yourself, that doesn’t work either…
A break (I am sat in a coffee shop writing this) used to work but has been less successful recently…
Has anybody got any other ideas?
Thanks to everybody who posts on this forum
TonyDB