Okay, my mother does not have a diagnosis of dementia, but she has lots of symptoms I have noticed. The problem: no one else in my family notices them. My sibling has POA and here in the States, I can do nothing about this situation. It is in his hands to decide whether or not to get a Neurological workup done. He wont. He is in denial. So are the others. If she has it, it is possibly early stage, but it is progressing. Here is why I am writing today:
Yesterday, I called her on the telephone and she told me she had taken 3 times the usual dosage of benzodiazepine as prescribed her her doctor to get some sleep. Then I was unable to get to her house nor to reach her on the phone. I called my sibling with the POA and spoke to his answering machine and told him. He never replied. Not yesterday. Not ever. I contact him only mostly by email and rarely as I know he is a difficult person and the family is dysfunctional. Today I called my mother and asked her about yesterday and she very clearly told me she would never take 3 pills at once. That she fears them. This has always been the truth. I am so lost now because, brother with POA is just not hearing me. I experience many "events" where it is clear that my mother has memory issues, anger issues, behavior issues, etc. I once sent him an email several months ago pointing out my reasoning. No response.
I cannot get her doctor to talk to me. I cannot get Adult Protective Services in because they have to see a truly dire circumstance, they then have to declare her incompetent, and it is one huge mess. She is very ill with congestive heart failure too and is homebound, fragile and frail.
Is there anyone out there who went through this, being the only one and coming up against walls? I even contacted my own doctor who suggested I sent my mother's doctor a letter or actually a phone call leaving a message. This does not work. This doctor only replies to my brother with the POA.
Yesterday, I called her on the telephone and she told me she had taken 3 times the usual dosage of benzodiazepine as prescribed her her doctor to get some sleep. Then I was unable to get to her house nor to reach her on the phone. I called my sibling with the POA and spoke to his answering machine and told him. He never replied. Not yesterday. Not ever. I contact him only mostly by email and rarely as I know he is a difficult person and the family is dysfunctional. Today I called my mother and asked her about yesterday and she very clearly told me she would never take 3 pills at once. That she fears them. This has always been the truth. I am so lost now because, brother with POA is just not hearing me. I experience many "events" where it is clear that my mother has memory issues, anger issues, behavior issues, etc. I once sent him an email several months ago pointing out my reasoning. No response.
I cannot get her doctor to talk to me. I cannot get Adult Protective Services in because they have to see a truly dire circumstance, they then have to declare her incompetent, and it is one huge mess. She is very ill with congestive heart failure too and is homebound, fragile and frail.
Is there anyone out there who went through this, being the only one and coming up against walls? I even contacted my own doctor who suggested I sent my mother's doctor a letter or actually a phone call leaving a message. This does not work. This doctor only replies to my brother with the POA.
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