Hello everyone
My mum is in a care home and has been since 9th January. She has been doing ok, but is getting increasingly difficult when the carers are trying to do things for her, i.e. washing, dressing, help to the toilet etc. Quite a few weeks ago, the chiropodist was checking her feet and noticed that her toe nails needed cutting, but what ever way he tried my mum would not let him cut her nails. Every time he tried my mum would either kick out, or verbal abuse him, so in the end he had to leave it. He tried again the next time he visited but the same thing happened again. Then yesterday (his 3rd time of trying) my mum was still refusing to let him cut her toe nails. I had a phone call from him saying that he really needs to do them as they are very long and are curling round and starting to dig into her skin. He said he will be at the care home again on Fri 26th and has asked me to be there when he is, in the hope that I can calm my mum down to allow him to cut her nails.
The thing is, this has happened before when she was still living at home and it was very difficult then, but now with her Dementia being more advanced, I just dont know if me being there is going to help. Obviously I will be there, but I was wondering if anyone could suggest any ideas on the best way to handle it. If she starts to kick out and shout, what do I do? I cant tell her to stop because she wont understand, and no matter how many times I try and explain to her what is happening and that there is nothing to be frightened of, and I will not let anything happen to her, and she's perfectly safe, what happens if she still refuses to co-operate??.
Any advice would be great, thank you
My mum is in a care home and has been since 9th January. She has been doing ok, but is getting increasingly difficult when the carers are trying to do things for her, i.e. washing, dressing, help to the toilet etc. Quite a few weeks ago, the chiropodist was checking her feet and noticed that her toe nails needed cutting, but what ever way he tried my mum would not let him cut her nails. Every time he tried my mum would either kick out, or verbal abuse him, so in the end he had to leave it. He tried again the next time he visited but the same thing happened again. Then yesterday (his 3rd time of trying) my mum was still refusing to let him cut her toe nails. I had a phone call from him saying that he really needs to do them as they are very long and are curling round and starting to dig into her skin. He said he will be at the care home again on Fri 26th and has asked me to be there when he is, in the hope that I can calm my mum down to allow him to cut her nails.
The thing is, this has happened before when she was still living at home and it was very difficult then, but now with her Dementia being more advanced, I just dont know if me being there is going to help. Obviously I will be there, but I was wondering if anyone could suggest any ideas on the best way to handle it. If she starts to kick out and shout, what do I do? I cant tell her to stop because she wont understand, and no matter how many times I try and explain to her what is happening and that there is nothing to be frightened of, and I will not let anything happen to her, and she's perfectly safe, what happens if she still refuses to co-operate??.
Any advice would be great, thank you