Does anyone have any thoughts about where I could search for live-in care?
Mum is very able physically. She's well and can dress/look after herself. She eats microwave meals and salads but she can hardly verbalise (severe Receptive Dysphasia). She cannot problem solve and has huge difficulties understanding what is being asked of her because of severe confusion. She loses keys, glasses, bus pass (she only uses that for one destination) and sometimes leaves her doors open when she goes out or even when she's in.
She has started to return to sender all her post after scribbling out the address (I don't know why) so I am missing one off medical appointments and tax details (because hospitals don't always forward me copies). She buys random stuff and too much stuff.
She has Dementia but there are symptoms crossover so she is having further tests at John Radcliffe, Oxford to try and pinpoint the cause. She is only 73, diagnosed a year ago and has deteriorated rapidly. I am about to take over her bank account and give her some sort of standalone card like Revolut or GoHenry??? that I can top up for her because she is very vulnerable to exploitation now and wastes so much money on stuff she then chucks in the bin (unless I fish it out and take it back) This is why she needs more than daily Carers who literally check her fridge, talk to her and are an extra pair of eyes for me.
I have looked at live-in agencies but don't feel Mum needs someone like that quite yet (or that expensive) so I am thinking about a sort of independent medically aware au-pair for company? Someone who is perhaps a bit older (50s/60s) ex nurse sort of person who can just keep an eye on all these issues. I live 50miles away and do visit at least once every week but that's not enough because things goes wrong constantly and Mum doesn't realise. She has great neighbours but I don't like to load this onto them too much. Any ideas?
Mum is very able physically. She's well and can dress/look after herself. She eats microwave meals and salads but she can hardly verbalise (severe Receptive Dysphasia). She cannot problem solve and has huge difficulties understanding what is being asked of her because of severe confusion. She loses keys, glasses, bus pass (she only uses that for one destination) and sometimes leaves her doors open when she goes out or even when she's in.
She has started to return to sender all her post after scribbling out the address (I don't know why) so I am missing one off medical appointments and tax details (because hospitals don't always forward me copies). She buys random stuff and too much stuff.
She has Dementia but there are symptoms crossover so she is having further tests at John Radcliffe, Oxford to try and pinpoint the cause. She is only 73, diagnosed a year ago and has deteriorated rapidly. I am about to take over her bank account and give her some sort of standalone card like Revolut or GoHenry??? that I can top up for her because she is very vulnerable to exploitation now and wastes so much money on stuff she then chucks in the bin (unless I fish it out and take it back) This is why she needs more than daily Carers who literally check her fridge, talk to her and are an extra pair of eyes for me.
I have looked at live-in agencies but don't feel Mum needs someone like that quite yet (or that expensive) so I am thinking about a sort of independent medically aware au-pair for company? Someone who is perhaps a bit older (50s/60s) ex nurse sort of person who can just keep an eye on all these issues. I live 50miles away and do visit at least once every week but that's not enough because things goes wrong constantly and Mum doesn't realise. She has great neighbours but I don't like to load this onto them too much. Any ideas?