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Life in a washing machine

di65

Registered User
Feb 28, 2013
775
new zealand
Well - that what my head feels like at the moment. Every afternoon Lex decides we HAVE to go for a drive somewhere. So, this afternoon we went and delivered some bulletins that I have written for my Inner Wheel Club. Pouring with rain, but it had to be done. When we got home after about an hour, he wanted to know when we were going out for a drive :eek: After continual questions about this I said we would go out and have a meal at the local Club. For the last three hours there has not been more than 10 seconds where he hasn't been asking a question about it. My head is spinning at a thousand revolutions a second. Now apparently his wife has gone up town and not told anyone where she is and when she would be back (if only I COULD run away!!!!!) He has now started going out to the gate and looking for the car that was coming to help sew the curtains (??). I don't know how long I can answer all of his questions without starting to scream. However, I have been continually accused of arguing with him and changing my mind and to get my s**t together.
I don't know how much more of this I can take. The Memory Clinic doctor has asked on many occasions if I have had enough yet - maybe next time I might say YES:(
 

Kjn

Registered User
Jul 27, 2013
5,835
Oh bless you, it's so hard. Maybe you could say we will go out shortly, go out tomorrow, get his attention into something else, does he have anything he enjoys doing. We get my dad colouring in now .
My mum is dads carer so has the same , he goes through phases of his moods and wanting to do things .
Do you have help at all , are there any groups in your area to attend together or an age UK type thing (if there is something like that over there)? Where you can leave him so you get some space to yourself.
My parents are still able to attend clubs which is tiring for mum but gets dad out of the house which improves his mood, Friday's he is at his club for 4 hrs.

Stay strong xx
 

di65

Registered User
Feb 28, 2013
775
new zealand
Lex has daycare two days a week, so I do get some quiet days. As for trying to distract him - however short everything else stays in his mind NOTHING detracts from his daily drive :(. I have tried everything I can think of and have run out ideas.
At 6& (6years post diagnosis) he is still active, and these non-stop talking session accompany his incessant walking about the house.

DAMN this disease !!!!!!!!
 

pamann

Registered User
Oct 28, 2013
2,635
Kent
Hello Di65 my hubby is just the same, all day long since the elections, all he says is David Carmeron wants him in the Government!!! He looks out of the window waiting for him to collect him in his car, he talks constantly to the people on TV as he thinks they are talking to him, l know how you feel, l take him out in the car most days, life is so hard for us.
 

di65

Registered User
Feb 28, 2013
775
new zealand
Hello Di65 my hubby is just the same, all day long since the elections, all he says is David Carmeron wants him in the Government!!! He looks out of the window waiting for him to collect him in his car, he talks constantly to the people on TV as he thinks they are talking to him, l know how you feel, l take him out in the car most days, life is so hard for us.
Yes Pamann, I am starting to realise that the TV has a lot to do with his conversations. I am glad that your hubby has the same political ideas as David Cameron, or else it could be awkward if he was in an opposition party:D
 

colincampsite

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Jun 4, 2011
33
Darlington
Di, You have a good point. Try a bit (lot) of humour. That's what I find works with the wife. She is constantly laughing. I know that sometimes humour does not come easily. In fact it is the last thing you need, or is it?
 

patsy56

Registered User
Jan 14, 2015
839
Fife Scotland
oh I sympathise so much, I think I have this yet to come, but yes mater has to have a daily drive, which is of course out the question, the care agency take her out two days a week. And don't ask about day care........I don't go out they can come to me. (sigh)
 

pamann

Registered User
Oct 28, 2013
2,635
Kent
Hello di65 l have just told my hubby that l have phoned David Cameron to tell him you are waiting, he is so sorry, but he has enough MPs now so will no longer require your services. Hubby is very releived, so maybe we won't hear anymore about it, you have to make up stories sometimes it works. Try to make fun of it not always easy
 

di65

Registered User
Feb 28, 2013
775
new zealand
The sad thing is I can't make a jovial quip these days - it goes right over the top. He used to have such a sharp sense of humour:(. I feel increasingly alone in his company
 

Kjn

Registered User
Jul 27, 2013
5,835
The TV definately has a lot to do with conversations. My mum lets dad have news on, I turn it over to sport which he likes watching or documentaries instead.
 

Chuggalug

Registered User
Mar 24, 2014
8,007
Norfolk
It's like that here, too, but surprisingly, he's settled down in hospital now, Di. They saw what I've been living with the last 6.5 years and have finally acknowledged things ain't wot they're s'posed to be, which is a bit of a light at the end of this dark tunnel. Still waiting to see where it all leads...

Strength and courage to you.
 

WIFE

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May 23, 2014
856
WEST SUSSEX
It's like that here, too, but surprisingly, he's settled down in hospital now, Di. They saw what I've been living with the last 6.5 years and have finally acknowledged things ain't wot they're s'posed to be, which is a bit of a light at the end of this dark tunnel. Still waiting to see where it all leads...

Strength and courage to you.
Thank goodness - at last. Praying you now get the help you so deserve and obviously desperately need. Accept anything offered Chuggalug - don't be resistant. Just so relieved for you. WIFE P.S. How is the husband doing?
 

Chuggalug

Registered User
Mar 24, 2014
8,007
Norfolk
Thank goodness - at last. Praying you now get the help you so deserve and obviously desperately need. Accept anything offered Chuggalug - don't be resistant. Just so relieved for you. WIFE P.S. How is the husband doing?
Thanks Wife. All updates on me own thread, when you've time :) xxxxxxxxxxxx
 

di65

Registered User
Feb 28, 2013
775
new zealand
Groundhog Day today. Same problem, different questions. It was Mother's Day here today, the worst one I have ever had :(. Couldn't/wouldn't understand I wanted to stay at home and not go for his daily drive. Went to the cemetery and then his Mum in the morning, but he couldn't remember this and started on about a drive about 2 o'clock. I was naturally expecting the boys and their families to turn up, but had to put up with the non-stop barrage about me being selfish not wanting a drive and all the other rubbish that I come to expect these days. I eventually gave in after the family went home and took a spin around the town, arriving home in time to cook tea. I am just SOOOO tired.......