We had planned to do some gardening yesterday, catch up and make some changes, but the weather was very windy with quite heavy showers. So we left the garden and went back indoors to deal with some of FIL's personal belongings. Its actually hard to believe that a month has passed already.
The legal bits are almost complete, and the bills are paid. All that's left are the personal items and its sad that there aren't that many really. Because he lived with us, and OH has brought everything back here from the NH, it is all here in this house. So I've begun to unpick the name labels from his clothes, and how I wish I hadn't taken a short cut and written in some things with a permanent marker!
We have some items that should be returned to SS like the magnifying glasses, and the speaking clock and watch. He never really used them, they were just fiddled with and put aside. We have hearing aids, who will want them back? And glasses, we hope to find a charity that will take them, one pair were never worn at all.
The hardest things are the those that he kept as keepsakes. Things that meant so much to him from his younger days, things that belonged to his wife and his late daughter who died when she was child. We have to keep them. He kept cuttings from newspapers and school play programmes. And some photographs we have never seen before! They are family pieces. And yet a small part of me doesn't want my own children to have to deal with them later. I know there is plenty of time, no need to rush.
So its sad to see the bits of his life being given away and its sad to see other bits packed away in boxes. Its something I've dealt with before with my parents, and I know its something that everyone has to deal with. We are no different. I guess its part of the grieving and moving on. It made us feel sad again.
I think we all need some sunshine. So today we are off to the charity shops in the hope they will accept the things we take.
And then I think a walk to blow some cobwebs away with maybe tea and cake after! I think its time for a treat, and I don't think FIL would mind one bit!
The legal bits are almost complete, and the bills are paid. All that's left are the personal items and its sad that there aren't that many really. Because he lived with us, and OH has brought everything back here from the NH, it is all here in this house. So I've begun to unpick the name labels from his clothes, and how I wish I hadn't taken a short cut and written in some things with a permanent marker!
We have some items that should be returned to SS like the magnifying glasses, and the speaking clock and watch. He never really used them, they were just fiddled with and put aside. We have hearing aids, who will want them back? And glasses, we hope to find a charity that will take them, one pair were never worn at all.
The hardest things are the those that he kept as keepsakes. Things that meant so much to him from his younger days, things that belonged to his wife and his late daughter who died when she was child. We have to keep them. He kept cuttings from newspapers and school play programmes. And some photographs we have never seen before! They are family pieces. And yet a small part of me doesn't want my own children to have to deal with them later. I know there is plenty of time, no need to rush.
So its sad to see the bits of his life being given away and its sad to see other bits packed away in boxes. Its something I've dealt with before with my parents, and I know its something that everyone has to deal with. We are no different. I guess its part of the grieving and moving on. It made us feel sad again.
I think we all need some sunshine. So today we are off to the charity shops in the hope they will accept the things we take.
And then I think a walk to blow some cobwebs away with maybe tea and cake after! I think its time for a treat, and I don't think FIL would mind one bit!