Hi,
This is my first thread so this may go a bit wrong, but I am learning, albeit slowly. I'm relieved to find the level of support amongst you.
A bit of history. I am the brother of Greenman who posted his first thread approx. two weeks ago. Although I am an experienced manager, I am in common with my brother, finding the whole process of how best to help my Mum very challenging as the illness progresses. Mum is 79and has what the specialist advises is middle stage Alzheimers. Unfortunately she does not recognise that she has this illness, merely that she is 'forgetful' and has to visit a memory clinic every three months! We also have to consider how to help our Aunt who moved in to support Mum in day to day living when Dad died in 2007.
We have joint Enduring Power of Attorney(EPA),drawn up and witnessed in late 2007 by a local solicitor at reasonable charge. I look after Mum's financial affairs on a day to day basis at her request as I live nearby. Although very 'forgetful' and sometimes having no idea of what day it is, she does know what accounts she has and understands what is happening in them if I sit down with her and show her the pages and write out in longhand what I have done. Unfortunately, she will often not remember any of this ten minutes later!
I have two questions:
1. I have recorded the EPA with Mums bank and insurance companies etc. and these companies have been fine when I have needed to contact them, make transactions etc., but I forgot to record the EPA with National Savings and Investments and they are now insisting on a letter from a GP or consultant to say that she is "able to understand basic financial transactions".
Is this usual or just peculiar to NS&I?
2. When, from experience do contributors think I should register this EPA with the Office of the Public Guardian? Is there anything else I should consider?
I have lots of other questions on support from Social Services etc. etc., but have to start somewhere, yours a worried newbie.....
This is my first thread so this may go a bit wrong, but I am learning, albeit slowly. I'm relieved to find the level of support amongst you.
A bit of history. I am the brother of Greenman who posted his first thread approx. two weeks ago. Although I am an experienced manager, I am in common with my brother, finding the whole process of how best to help my Mum very challenging as the illness progresses. Mum is 79and has what the specialist advises is middle stage Alzheimers. Unfortunately she does not recognise that she has this illness, merely that she is 'forgetful' and has to visit a memory clinic every three months! We also have to consider how to help our Aunt who moved in to support Mum in day to day living when Dad died in 2007.
We have joint Enduring Power of Attorney(EPA),drawn up and witnessed in late 2007 by a local solicitor at reasonable charge. I look after Mum's financial affairs on a day to day basis at her request as I live nearby. Although very 'forgetful' and sometimes having no idea of what day it is, she does know what accounts she has and understands what is happening in them if I sit down with her and show her the pages and write out in longhand what I have done. Unfortunately, she will often not remember any of this ten minutes later!
I have two questions:
1. I have recorded the EPA with Mums bank and insurance companies etc. and these companies have been fine when I have needed to contact them, make transactions etc., but I forgot to record the EPA with National Savings and Investments and they are now insisting on a letter from a GP or consultant to say that she is "able to understand basic financial transactions".
Is this usual or just peculiar to NS&I?
2. When, from experience do contributors think I should register this EPA with the Office of the Public Guardian? Is there anything else I should consider?
I have lots of other questions on support from Social Services etc. etc., but have to start somewhere, yours a worried newbie.....
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