Thank you for your update, @susanandliam. I am so sorry to hear about your mother's cancer diagnosis.
I am also sorry that I have no personal experience of this situation and so can't offer personal advice. I can suggest a notebook. When I am going to take my mother to the doctor, or speak to them, I have to make a list of questions and take it with me, and take notes, because I can't seem to remember what I want to ask, and I can't seem to remember what they say!
It seems a hard issue to evaluate the risks and benefits of different treatments and medications, while making sure she is comfortable and has whatever pain control she needs. I hope the doctors can give you the information you need to make decisions. Best wishes.
I am also sorry that I have no personal experience of this situation and so can't offer personal advice. I can suggest a notebook. When I am going to take my mother to the doctor, or speak to them, I have to make a list of questions and take it with me, and take notes, because I can't seem to remember what I want to ask, and I can't seem to remember what they say!
It seems a hard issue to evaluate the risks and benefits of different treatments and medications, while making sure she is comfortable and has whatever pain control she needs. I hope the doctors can give you the information you need to make decisions. Best wishes.