I know that all of us on this site are having the same feelings of guilt and anguish for our loved ones. Mum has not been able to speak to us for awhile now and seems to go into a deep sleep to the point that we check her breathing which seems very shallow to make sure all is well. Her food intake is varied and her fluids nil the NH wake her to feed her which I have asked if they have to. Yes I understand that they do but it seems so sad that my mum who looked after everyone first and was there for all her family has to suffer this horrible end to her life. Today I went to see mum to find her awake but crying and trying to speak. She kept putting up her arms as if some one was there for her what little words I could understand she seemed to say they are all here for me and at one point I thought she said I will go soon. I spoke to the NIC who told me that she has been like this since this morning and asked if this could be close to the end and he told me he could not say. I know this could go on for ages Mum has not been out of bed since September and is jus wasting away. I feel so helpless when I am with her for not knowing what she wants to tell me and also not being able to make her feel better. Please God one day that phone will ring and when it does my heart will break for the lose of mum but I pray every night that it will ring.