Mum was diagnosed with AD about 2.5 years ago, thought we were coping pretty well , got a carer coming in 3 times a week to do evening meal & I cover the other days. The carer is great & if she can will cover for our holidays so it's not been too bad. When I. read on here how difficult it is for others I've just felt we were fortunate . The last 10 days mum has gone badly downhill. She lives on her own about 5 mins drive from me (I'm the only child) and has started ringing me panicking about things that don't make any sense. At first I just dashed round but now I'm trying to work out if it is really urgent- sometime she rings early in the morning & I think it may just be that she is having a bad dream or she can't work out how to put her trousers on!
She's only ringing 2 or 3 times a day which I know isn't that bad but she is so confused and it is difficult to talk to her sometimes when I'm at work . I just feel like bursting into tears all the time. She hasn't been assessed by social services, although they are aware of her condition. It wasn't until I read on here recently that she should be assessed that I contacted them, they kept asking me what she needed & I said I didn't know that's why she needed to be assessed by experts. They finally grudgingly agreed to assess me as a carer but I have to wait 4/5 weeks for a call back.
The difficulty is that on some levels I guess mum isn't too bad, she is getting up & just about dressed, she still goes out to the shops. ( luckily she lives in a village where the shopkeepers are used to elderly people) but I'm finding it exhausting. Her Gp is great & when I took mum yesterday as I wondered if her increased confusion might be an infection she ran a full check up on her & prescribed antibiotics just in case.
I think my problem is that mum was always such an independent capable person, my dad died 12 years ago & she just coped with that, moved house about 6 years ago without any bother & I'm also not very good at asking for help. My husband is very supportive especially as all I seem to do at the moment is burst into tears,but I just seem to be worrying all the time , which is not like me.
Really just wanted to get this off my chest , partly I think it's not knowing what to do for the best or who to get advice from. I know everyone is in the same boat & that we are a lot luckier than some so l feel like I am moaning but do feel better for putting it all down
She's only ringing 2 or 3 times a day which I know isn't that bad but she is so confused and it is difficult to talk to her sometimes when I'm at work . I just feel like bursting into tears all the time. She hasn't been assessed by social services, although they are aware of her condition. It wasn't until I read on here recently that she should be assessed that I contacted them, they kept asking me what she needed & I said I didn't know that's why she needed to be assessed by experts. They finally grudgingly agreed to assess me as a carer but I have to wait 4/5 weeks for a call back.
The difficulty is that on some levels I guess mum isn't too bad, she is getting up & just about dressed, she still goes out to the shops. ( luckily she lives in a village where the shopkeepers are used to elderly people) but I'm finding it exhausting. Her Gp is great & when I took mum yesterday as I wondered if her increased confusion might be an infection she ran a full check up on her & prescribed antibiotics just in case.
I think my problem is that mum was always such an independent capable person, my dad died 12 years ago & she just coped with that, moved house about 6 years ago without any bother & I'm also not very good at asking for help. My husband is very supportive especially as all I seem to do at the moment is burst into tears,but I just seem to be worrying all the time , which is not like me.
Really just wanted to get this off my chest , partly I think it's not knowing what to do for the best or who to get advice from. I know everyone is in the same boat & that we are a lot luckier than some so l feel like I am moaning but do feel better for putting it all down