Hi
I'm new to this forum and am looking for some advice.
My Uncle passed away a fortnight ago and this has left my Aunt on her own with dementia. She has no relatives in her area (son lives overseas). Aunt lives one side of the Thames, we live the other.
Aunt has been living with Mum and Dad for the past two weeks, but already Mum is struggling to cope with her sister and my Dad (getting unsteady and forgetful himself!) - indeed, Mum and Dad's lives have effectively stopped as Aunt cannot be left on her own - she forgets very quickly and has so far set the smoke alarm off when she got the kettle cable stuck under the off switch, over flowed the sink forgetting to turn off taps and left the front door wide open. Additionally she cannot get up their stairs on her own to the bathroom (she had a downstairs wc).
Mum contacted Aunt's local authority to see what help they could offer - not interested. She asked the nurse at a recent appointment about Aunt's social worker and got told she doesn't have one. Mum has made a DRs appointment with Aunts DR to discuss her needs/options.
I believe my Aunt should be able to have a care needs assessment by her local council, but does anyone know if that means she would have to stay in her local area?
As an initial route I have started contacting care homes in our area for information as we feel that she would be best in a home and near us so that we can visit daily (as opposed to once a week if she stayed in her area).
Has anyone had any experience of moving a relative from one borough to another in this way?
She has a house to sell but we have also discovered a large chunk of any sale needs to be repaid under equity release. Does anyone know what would happen once her money runs out? Would she need to change care homes?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
thanks.
I'm new to this forum and am looking for some advice.
My Uncle passed away a fortnight ago and this has left my Aunt on her own with dementia. She has no relatives in her area (son lives overseas). Aunt lives one side of the Thames, we live the other.
Aunt has been living with Mum and Dad for the past two weeks, but already Mum is struggling to cope with her sister and my Dad (getting unsteady and forgetful himself!) - indeed, Mum and Dad's lives have effectively stopped as Aunt cannot be left on her own - she forgets very quickly and has so far set the smoke alarm off when she got the kettle cable stuck under the off switch, over flowed the sink forgetting to turn off taps and left the front door wide open. Additionally she cannot get up their stairs on her own to the bathroom (she had a downstairs wc).
Mum contacted Aunt's local authority to see what help they could offer - not interested. She asked the nurse at a recent appointment about Aunt's social worker and got told she doesn't have one. Mum has made a DRs appointment with Aunts DR to discuss her needs/options.
I believe my Aunt should be able to have a care needs assessment by her local council, but does anyone know if that means she would have to stay in her local area?
As an initial route I have started contacting care homes in our area for information as we feel that she would be best in a home and near us so that we can visit daily (as opposed to once a week if she stayed in her area).
Has anyone had any experience of moving a relative from one borough to another in this way?
She has a house to sell but we have also discovered a large chunk of any sale needs to be repaid under equity release. Does anyone know what would happen once her money runs out? Would she need to change care homes?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
thanks.