My first official job is over and it saddened me to the core and i seriously don't know if i'm cut out for carrying on. yes i've done the care of dementia/alzheimers with the kids for 14 years but boy it was hard. i got there and the lady was absolutely adorable i'm as soft as jelly and straight away looking at the lady you could tell she was energetic and agile apart from her memory. i got a few pointers of what's what and then my new dear friend started out the door and walked. we did that for three and a half hours until finally the wee darling was exhausted and started napping in the kitchen. i often say dementia is unique and i must admit i left after 4 hours doubting if i could easily place myself in an alien environment having to retrain to another persons wellbeing all the time being able to give the utmost RESPECT because to me that's what it's all about RESPECT. as i said earlier my daughter came with me and bearing in mind she grew up with dementia as we walked and walked she kept asking mum is this still for you, the lady is so different from gran, could you do this, are you tired? i think the reallity is this is something i am not going to take lightly, i feel passionate about sufferers and carers plights but as we all know it's a rocky path and strength and stamina and in my case humour is sometimes the key. i just hope that i can and will bite the bullet and try again and allow my mind to open to the fact that we are all individuals, different and maybe just waiting for that one smiley face that could brighten up our day. last thought due to my family circumstances when i was reflecting on saturday i wondered if i felt i had stumbled into caring from an early age due to my sisters and mums health then doubted should i continue. any thoughts would be so much appreciated. thanks for listening you startling people, i love this site.