My beautiful Dad, lost my equally beautiful Mum in August 2010. Initially lost and lonely he struggled on. 5 months later he fell ( 1.1.11) and broke his hip, which had been replaced previously, so was a bit of a problem. He was 80 years old.
After his op he spent a while in hospital, as we were trying to get him 'back on his feet' he was sent to a rehab hospital, but got the inevitable infection and was sent back to hospital.
7 months in they sent him home with a care package, it was struggle, and I noticed he was getting very forgetful and agitated. He didnt want the carers help and could be quite difficult, would eat, wash etc.
I asked his doctor to test him, but she said due to the infection he'd had it could be difficult.
Several more stays in hospital ( due to falls) he was again admitted early November. He was very aggitated, stressed, anxious and scared. He hated it, but after a couple of weeks again transferred to the rehab hospital.
We have decided to transfer him to a care home now, so he can be looked after 24 hours a day. He needs that care, I am happy with that. He calls out all the time in the night and needs reassurance, needs help to tranfer from bed to chair and generally has hugh problems with mobility. From being happily married, working part time, active member of a football team commitee, a car driver and very independent he is reduced to this.
Initially I was told the homes I was being referred to were residential dementia homes, this is due to my Dad needing some specialised handling.
I again asked for a diagnosis......
I went to see some homes, and some have some very troubled souls in them. Im noy happy to put Dad in there as Im sure alot of his problems are depression ( who wouldnt be ?) And I dont want him left in a strange place with people he wont be able to relate to.
Finally found a home with 3 floors, residential, first stage dementia and end stage dementia and it was FAB, felt right, was happy to put my Dad there....... on the residential floor, and if things got worse move up a floor !
Social services were soooo relieved, but then informed me there was only a vacancy on the top floor ( end stage demetia) I explained I was not happy as we didnt have a diagnosis........
A doctors called me to say although Dad wasnt diagnosed he definately had a personality disorder and would get diagnosed in the community !!
They let the home come and assess my Dad today, for the end stage bed available, and the social worker had all but packed my Dads bags, when the home callled and said they wouldn't be happy to take him for that bed as he clearly wasn't at that stage, but would be happy to take him in the residential floor. ALthough they didnt have a space at this time, so he could go on the waiting list.
AT LAST SOMEONE AGREES WITH ME !!
They are so desperate to get him out of hospital, they have sent me details of another home to look at, although my mind is set on the one I chose.
At half four today Im told they have a space, and could I rush along and see this home that is ideal for my Dad.......
Its a residential care home................
How do we go from a end stage dementia space to a care home for the elderly with physical disability place.
Advice much appreciated
After his op he spent a while in hospital, as we were trying to get him 'back on his feet' he was sent to a rehab hospital, but got the inevitable infection and was sent back to hospital.
7 months in they sent him home with a care package, it was struggle, and I noticed he was getting very forgetful and agitated. He didnt want the carers help and could be quite difficult, would eat, wash etc.
I asked his doctor to test him, but she said due to the infection he'd had it could be difficult.
Several more stays in hospital ( due to falls) he was again admitted early November. He was very aggitated, stressed, anxious and scared. He hated it, but after a couple of weeks again transferred to the rehab hospital.
We have decided to transfer him to a care home now, so he can be looked after 24 hours a day. He needs that care, I am happy with that. He calls out all the time in the night and needs reassurance, needs help to tranfer from bed to chair and generally has hugh problems with mobility. From being happily married, working part time, active member of a football team commitee, a car driver and very independent he is reduced to this.
Initially I was told the homes I was being referred to were residential dementia homes, this is due to my Dad needing some specialised handling.
I again asked for a diagnosis......
I went to see some homes, and some have some very troubled souls in them. Im noy happy to put Dad in there as Im sure alot of his problems are depression ( who wouldnt be ?) And I dont want him left in a strange place with people he wont be able to relate to.
Finally found a home with 3 floors, residential, first stage dementia and end stage dementia and it was FAB, felt right, was happy to put my Dad there....... on the residential floor, and if things got worse move up a floor !
Social services were soooo relieved, but then informed me there was only a vacancy on the top floor ( end stage demetia) I explained I was not happy as we didnt have a diagnosis........
A doctors called me to say although Dad wasnt diagnosed he definately had a personality disorder and would get diagnosed in the community !!
They let the home come and assess my Dad today, for the end stage bed available, and the social worker had all but packed my Dads bags, when the home callled and said they wouldn't be happy to take him for that bed as he clearly wasn't at that stage, but would be happy to take him in the residential floor. ALthough they didnt have a space at this time, so he could go on the waiting list.
AT LAST SOMEONE AGREES WITH ME !!
They are so desperate to get him out of hospital, they have sent me details of another home to look at, although my mind is set on the one I chose.
At half four today Im told they have a space, and could I rush along and see this home that is ideal for my Dad.......
Its a residential care home................
How do we go from a end stage dementia space to a care home for the elderly with physical disability place.
Advice much appreciated