Hi all,
My Mum (age 98) has been in permanent care (residential care) for over two years now. But sadly as the dementia progresses she get quite angry and agitated especially during the night time.
Today when I visited, Mum was extremely tired and when I was leaving one of the carers told me that she had been up about six times during the night and just wouldn't settle, she was angry and saying how she "HATED this bloody place" and was going to get out and go back to Manchester. She tried to break the window with her walking frame (according to the evening carer).
Mum would never swear and it is totally out of character for her but she is so frustrated with being in the Home. I must add that the Home is really cosy and the staff are great but it is a worry for me in case they feel that she must be moved on to another more secure care home.
Last summer she did work out the numbers on the keypad and managed to escape down a flight of stairs and onto the road outside, where thankfully the next door neighbours were out in the garden and realised what the situation was, invited her in for a cuppa and then phoned the Home to let them know where she was! The Home were so upset about this and couldn't understand how she could have worked out the numbers. Since then they have changed the numbers, but she still tries to get out.
Is there a cut-off line where the Care Home say she is being too disruptive to the other residents and want her to be moved elsewhere? I know that this has happened quite recently (in Mum's care home) with another lady who was very disruptive all of the time. With Mum it seems to be mostly at night time.
I will phone the Care Home manager tomorrow but in the meantime, thanks for reading and I'm hoping that someone has some ideas.
Pauline
My Mum (age 98) has been in permanent care (residential care) for over two years now. But sadly as the dementia progresses she get quite angry and agitated especially during the night time.
Today when I visited, Mum was extremely tired and when I was leaving one of the carers told me that she had been up about six times during the night and just wouldn't settle, she was angry and saying how she "HATED this bloody place" and was going to get out and go back to Manchester. She tried to break the window with her walking frame (according to the evening carer).
Mum would never swear and it is totally out of character for her but she is so frustrated with being in the Home. I must add that the Home is really cosy and the staff are great but it is a worry for me in case they feel that she must be moved on to another more secure care home.
Last summer she did work out the numbers on the keypad and managed to escape down a flight of stairs and onto the road outside, where thankfully the next door neighbours were out in the garden and realised what the situation was, invited her in for a cuppa and then phoned the Home to let them know where she was! The Home were so upset about this and couldn't understand how she could have worked out the numbers. Since then they have changed the numbers, but she still tries to get out.
Is there a cut-off line where the Care Home say she is being too disruptive to the other residents and want her to be moved elsewhere? I know that this has happened quite recently (in Mum's care home) with another lady who was very disruptive all of the time. With Mum it seems to be mostly at night time.
I will phone the Care Home manager tomorrow but in the meantime, thanks for reading and I'm hoping that someone has some ideas.
Pauline