Last autumn I wrote under this thread title about a big falling out I had with my sister in July. Here I am eight and a half months later with nothing resolved at all. Now it never will be. I have had to admit to myself that my life cannot be ruled by what we said to each other. I have lost so much sleep going over everything that has happened in my life. Trying to remember what I did and said that has made her hate me. So my last attempt to get her to talk was a short letter about 5 weeks ago. I asked to please could we talk, to try to sort it out. That we are family and should be there for each other. No answer. First class stamp as well!!! So I finally took the step and told my brother. He and my sister in law live 200 miles away and live a peaceful life by the coast. They have had their own sadness to deal with so I didn't want to tell him. So that's it. Family get togethers, weddings, special birthdays. Even short breaks together. All over now. And my lovely husband trapped in his dementia world. I haven't been able to get together with the family for a few years now. Because David could not handle noise or lots of people. So I guess I am used to it. I still have my sons and their wives and grandchildren. So thank you, all of you that supported me back then, and really helped me with your stories and advice. I am so grateful. I will try to move on properly now.xxx