Not sure if this is really worth asking but, my husband has now been in a care home for 19 months, he improved, settled almost at once and really does not appear to have deteriated and, in as much as you can get used to things, I am used to the 'new' person to a large extent. No longer the person he was, but 'new'. I know he walked continuously round the care home all day long, thinks he is at his old place of work from 30 odd years ago, no idea where he is.
So what has changed? I'm not sure. Every time in the last 2/3 weeks he is sleeping. Thought it was because he is having bad nights, but the last carer I spoke to today says not, he just sleeps a lot now and this is normal. All the residents do seem to be always asleep, but he wasn't one of them. I this the next stage down or nothing much? I have got used to nothing much changing, at least as far as I am aware.
Not sure what I am asking for here. Had him home yesterday, he never really engaged in any way and was falling asleep all the time. Really felt/feel - where has my husband gone! The man I have known for 50 years and even now is only 69. He left the house without a backward glance. I know people say that he is still there somewhere and sometimes I can believe it but - often, I don't. He has gone, the man I have known most of my life is no longer there.
So what has changed? I'm not sure. Every time in the last 2/3 weeks he is sleeping. Thought it was because he is having bad nights, but the last carer I spoke to today says not, he just sleeps a lot now and this is normal. All the residents do seem to be always asleep, but he wasn't one of them. I this the next stage down or nothing much? I have got used to nothing much changing, at least as far as I am aware.
Not sure what I am asking for here. Had him home yesterday, he never really engaged in any way and was falling asleep all the time. Really felt/feel - where has my husband gone! The man I have known for 50 years and even now is only 69. He left the house without a backward glance. I know people say that he is still there somewhere and sometimes I can believe it but - often, I don't. He has gone, the man I have known most of my life is no longer there.