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Is a health and welfare p.o.a worth having.

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by lorryman, Sep 19, 2015.

  1. lorryman

    lorryman Registered User

    Dec 23, 2014
    6
    Spalding area
    IH everyone, being a full time carer for my wife I hold p.o.a, h&w,financial p.o.a, both are registered, this may seem a strange question I am throwing out. As well as having Vascular dementia my wife (PAM) is also diabetic and has a couple of ingrowing toenails, my wife has a brother who insists that seeing a podiatrist is a waste of time as he can cut her toe nails, I am worried he may cause more problems, Because I hold p.o.a can I legalley stop him doing this even if he persuades my wife into agreeing. I look forward to opinion on this subject. I apologise in advance if I have posted on a boring subject, regards, lorryman.
     
  2. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    Hi lorryman
    My dad also has vascular although mixed with alz and is diabetic and part of the diabetic appts Is the chiropodist , perhaps you could speak to diabetic nurse your wife sees as to what to say to brother? Just a thought.
     
  3. garnuft

    garnuft Registered User

    Sep 7, 2012
    6,588
    Not a boring subject at all.
    Toenails are very important and ingrowing toenails need professional attention.
    My son sees a chiropodist every 8 weeks, vital attention.

    Unless your Brother-law is a chiropodist, he should leave well alone... in fact his 'attentions' could be the cause of the problem.

    I think you could invoke health and welfare attorneyship but an easier route would be to ask GP for referral to a chiropodist....if the Dr. Says so, it must be right. Right?
    Best wishes.


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  4. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,714
    Female
    London
    From your thread title I thought you would ask whether you should get one but you already have it! If she has lost capacity then yes you can make health decisions like this. I am at a loss to understand why her brother would not want the specialists dealing with her? Is he in a position to cut her toenails without you present? Otherwise I would have thought you telling him not to touch her toenails should be enough? Could the GP or podiatrist impress on him how important proper footcare for diabetics is? Seriously, he has no business interfering in medical matters if you have health and welfare POA.
     
  5. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,973
    Suffolk
    And round here it's free for diabetics, so it's not as if he's saving money.
     
  6. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    I am in the process of getting Deputyship, for my hubby, as he cannot speak for himself, it is important, it will take 6 to 9months, at a cost of £1,500 , l do not think my hubby willmlive that long but SS insist that l getit!!!
     
  7. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    Yes that's right, I forgot that, if goes to clinic appts it's free for dad too.
     
  8. Kevinl

    Kevinl Registered User

    Aug 24, 2013
    4,783
    Salford
  9. Tiller Girl

    Tiller Girl Registered User

    May 14, 2012
    91
    Please don't let him cut her nails unless he's qualified to do so. It's very very important for diabetics to have their nails cut by a professional .
     
  10. lorryman

    lorryman Registered User

    Dec 23, 2014
    6
    Spalding area
    Thanks everyone

    thanks for all replies, never iimagined there would be so much support on here.
     
  11. Beannie

    Beannie Registered User

    Aug 17, 2015
    94
    East Midlands
    Hi Lorryman

    Absolutely agree with other TP members, you have the final say, there is no such thing as a boring subject on Talking Point, everything is relevant. Your wife should be entitled to free Chiropody care because she has Vascular dementia and is diabetic, ask your GP. Under no circumstances would I let her brother cut her toenails, in-growing ones can be painful and need to be dealt with by a professional to ensure it is done correctly and does not cause your wife any further discomfort.
     
  12. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    You have POA so it your decision- what you can
    remind his that if he does so without your consent you could have him charged with assault
     
  13. lorryman

    lorryman Registered User

    Dec 23, 2014
    6
    Spalding area
    Once again thankyou for your support.

    Again thankyou all for your support and advice, it gives me confidence to deal with situation, and I shall beyond doubt take control of the situation.
     
  14. malomm

    malomm Registered User

    A visit to a qualified chiropodist is a must for my wife at least once every 2 months. She objects of course, can't remember the agony she was in a couple of years ago with corns/ingrowing toe nails etc.
    It costs 20 euro a time, but we'll worth it; considering that she wouldn't let me touch her feet. Used to spend a fortune on Scholl corn plasters and dressings, special fit orthopaedic shoes. No free health service for stuff like this here. In your case I would insist on professional help, and keep amateurs out of it. Diabetes is dangerous and an added burden for you, so get what you can off NHS or Social Services
    keep smiling,
    malomm
     

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