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Is a health and welfare p.o.a worth having.

lorryman

Registered User
Dec 23, 2014
6
Spalding area
IH everyone, being a full time carer for my wife I hold p.o.a, h&w,financial p.o.a, both are registered, this may seem a strange question I am throwing out. As well as having Vascular dementia my wife (PAM) is also diabetic and has a couple of ingrowing toenails, my wife has a brother who insists that seeing a podiatrist is a waste of time as he can cut her toe nails, I am worried he may cause more problems, Because I hold p.o.a can I legalley stop him doing this even if he persuades my wife into agreeing. I look forward to opinion on this subject. I apologise in advance if I have posted on a boring subject, regards, lorryman.
 

Kjn

Registered User
Jul 27, 2013
5,835
Hi lorryman
My dad also has vascular although mixed with alz and is diabetic and part of the diabetic appts Is the chiropodist , perhaps you could speak to diabetic nurse your wife sees as to what to say to brother? Just a thought.
 

garnuft

Registered User
Sep 7, 2012
6,585
Not a boring subject at all.
Toenails are very important and ingrowing toenails need professional attention.
My son sees a chiropodist every 8 weeks, vital attention.

Unless your Brother-law is a chiropodist, he should leave well alone... in fact his 'attentions' could be the cause of the problem.

I think you could invoke health and welfare attorneyship but an easier route would be to ask GP for referral to a chiropodist....if the Dr. Says so, it must be right. Right?
Best wishes.


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Beate

Registered User
May 21, 2014
12,010
London
From your thread title I thought you would ask whether you should get one but you already have it! If she has lost capacity then yes you can make health decisions like this. I am at a loss to understand why her brother would not want the specialists dealing with her? Is he in a position to cut her toenails without you present? Otherwise I would have thought you telling him not to touch her toenails should be enough? Could the GP or podiatrist impress on him how important proper footcare for diabetics is? Seriously, he has no business interfering in medical matters if you have health and welfare POA.
 

pamann

Registered User
Oct 28, 2013
2,635
Kent
I am in the process of getting Deputyship, for my hubby, as he cannot speak for himself, it is important, it will take 6 to 9months, at a cost of £1,500 , l do not think my hubby willmlive that long but SS insist that l getit!!!
 

Tiller Girl

Registered User
May 14, 2012
96
Please don't let him cut her nails unless he's qualified to do so. It's very very important for diabetics to have their nails cut by a professional .
 

lorryman

Registered User
Dec 23, 2014
6
Spalding area
Thanks everyone

ih everyone, being a full time carer for my wife i hold p.o.a, h&w,financial p.o.a, both are registered, this may seem a strange question i am throwing out. As well as having vascular dementia my wife (pam) is also diabetic and has a couple of ingrowing toenails, my wife has a brother who insists that seeing a podiatrist is a waste of time as he can cut her toe nails, i am worried he may cause more problems, because i hold p.o.a can i legalley stop him doing this even if he persuades my wife into agreeing. I look forward to opinion on this subject. I apologise in advance if i have posted on a boring subject, regards, lorryman.
thanks for all replies, never iimagined there would be so much support on here.
 

Beannie

Registered User
Aug 17, 2015
94
East Midlands
IH everyone, being a full time carer for my wife I hold p.o.a, h&w,financial p.o.a, both are registered, this may seem a strange question I am throwing out. As well as having Vascular dementia my wife (PAM) is also diabetic and has a couple of ingrowing toenails, my wife has a brother who insists that seeing a podiatrist is a waste of time as he can cut her toe nails, I am worried he may cause more problems, Because I hold p.o.a can I legalley stop him doing this even if he persuades my wife into agreeing. I look forward to opinion on this subject. I apologise in advance if I have posted on a boring subject, regards, lorryman.
Hi Lorryman

Absolutely agree with other TP members, you have the final say, there is no such thing as a boring subject on Talking Point, everything is relevant. Your wife should be entitled to free Chiropody care because she has Vascular dementia and is diabetic, ask your GP. Under no circumstances would I let her brother cut her toenails, in-growing ones can be painful and need to be dealt with by a professional to ensure it is done correctly and does not cause your wife any further discomfort.
 

lorryman

Registered User
Dec 23, 2014
6
Spalding area
Once again thankyou for your support.

IH everyone, being a full time carer for my wife I hold p.o.a, h&w,financial p.o.a, both are registered, this may seem a strange question I am throwing out. As well as having Vascular dementia my wife (PAM) is also diabetic and has a couple of ingrowing toenails, my wife has a brother who insists that seeing a podiatrist is a waste of time as he can cut her toe nails, I am worried he may cause more problems, Because I hold p.o.a can I legalley stop him doing this even if he persuades my wife into agreeing. I look forward to opinion on this subject. I apologise in advance if I have posted on a boring subject, regards, lorryman.
Again thankyou all for your support and advice, it gives me confidence to deal with situation, and I shall beyond doubt take control of the situation.
 

malomm

Registered User
Mar 23, 2014
239
Campania Region, Italy
A visit to a qualified chiropodist is a must for my wife at least once every 2 months. She objects of course, can't remember the agony she was in a couple of years ago with corns/ingrowing toe nails etc.
It costs 20 euro a time, but we'll worth it; considering that she wouldn't let me touch her feet. Used to spend a fortune on Scholl corn plasters and dressings, special fit orthopaedic shoes. No free health service for stuff like this here. In your case I would insist on professional help, and keep amateurs out of it. Diabetes is dangerous and an added burden for you, so get what you can off NHS or Social Services
keep smiling,
malomm