Dad's lack of recognition of what a toilet is or where it is is increasing, it has become a problem first in his home where I lived in to care for him after mum's sudden death and gathered pace since arriving in the care home 16th months ago. I don't think there are any answers to this at the moment but wondered if anyone else's loved one has had similar experience in a care home. He is not incontinent yet, he gets the urge and knows he needs to take himself off somewhere to wee - the garden, corner of the lounge, corridor, waste paper bin, sink (in his mind probably looks like a urinal so I get that). Sometimes though he finds and uses the toilet appropriately, even sometimes flushing etc and can be guided if he can hold on. I visit every other day and guide him although he is sometimes reluctant as the urge is an immediate necessity, to the toilet. He is on water tablets for very swollen legs, which obviously exacerbates his need to wee. Yesterday was a particularly bad day apparently, pee'd in many places. The specialist dementia care home are very understanding, at the moment, and say it's just part of the illness for many, especially men who can easily pee anywhere. They have started today to put pull on incontinence pants on him which I can understand but surely if he still has the urge to pee and look for somewhere to do it, pants aren't going to stop this thought process. His problem in my mind is not loss of control just loss of toilet recognition and I don't know how or if that can be helped or overcome. He is physically reasonably well but mentally in early advanced.