I feel I should have done more. Mum died on 17th January last, so tiny and frail as she couldn't swallow - or speak. She knew me right up to the end which I know was a massive blessing for me but her eyes were fixed on me and she looked to me for her only help and I couldn't do anything. I felt an overwhelming responsibility as I was her only child. I was always trying to find out what she was thinking or if she was frightened or wanted to tell me something but couldn't get through and she couldn't communicate except for her eyes. She was so different to the Mum that brought me up, I'm glad my Dad didn't have to see her deteriorate in this way, it would have broken his heart. He died in 2009 but I feel I lost them both at the same time and Mum was diagnosed in the same year. Please someone - tell me it gets easier to bear and this guilt will ease. I have good and bad days as most people and just get one with it. I have nothing but total admiration for people that can look after their parents at home, my Mum was in a wonderful care home.