Hi, my mum had recently been diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. After 2 years of 3 visits to the Dr we finally decided to take it further and go to adult services. Social worker put care team in place 3 times a day but I feel it's not enough. She refuses to eat, had low blood sugar regular and needs more care. I really feel we not need extra care around the clock but social worker said he doesn't want to put her in residential as at 69 she is too young. Trying to keep a roof over my head and continue working but now I'm battling with my conscience feeling I should quit my job and behind her carer. I'm 50 myself and the thought of losing what independence I have is frightening. Hour can I get my mum in residential care without the social workers approval? Anyone any idea please?