I was my aunt's best friend and my brother and I are her only relative. she has Alzheimer's dementia but resists any form of help she can't use the oven or microwave, speech is very poor, no concept of times and dates if she has a doctor's appointment in a week's time she will go up every day until the right day comes we got carers in to give her one good meal a day but she keeps refusing the food saying she ate before they came in or is going out for lunch later and they say it's her choice. The doctor called social services in because he was so concerned with her loss of weight but Social Services say she has the capacity to decide what food she likes or not but has not got the capacity to implement her choices. She's had 3 meals in 10 days with the carers and just snacks on cakes & toast but I'm told it's her choice and SS Say as she's self-funding. I have power of attorney over her finances but not her health and now she doesn't want us in the house as she says were interfering. We pay all the bills and carers but neighbours keep phoning me saying they are worried about her but SS so she has capacity and now I can't go there although she constantly phones me up to complain about everything. We always planned that I would move there if necessary for a while and then she would move in with my brother and his wife but she doesn't want that now so I don't know what to do