My mum has been in NH for 4 weeks now & looks so much better. She is eating at the right times & not staying in bed all day. She doesn't want to join in when residents do activities & then goes to her room. I was visiting every day, but couldn't physically continue, as I was away from home 2 to 3 hours each time. I also help my daughter with her baby & 4 year old & look after a families 3 young children 1 day a week. I now visit her every other day & she never says, why didn't you see me yesterday. Her memory is very bad but as she's in a proper routine, she is now more alert & a bit more aware of what's going on.
It's great to see her like that, but she is asking me every time, when is she going home. If she went home tomorrow, she would go back to staying in bed all day for 17 hours & refuse to get up, not eat or drink in that time. Then would only eat crisps, cake, choc & drink wine. She isn't aware of danger anymore & would climb onto furniture to reach for things & leave frying pan on & walk away etc. There is no way I could let her do that again or have the worry of her back home. It's just very hard to know what to say to her each time she asks me. If we told her she's there to stay, she would understandably react very badly. She's physically fit & as her memory is bad, forgets every time we tell her anything. So she thinks there is nothing wrong with her & should be going home. I'd be very grateful for any suggestions please
It's great to see her like that, but she is asking me every time, when is she going home. If she went home tomorrow, she would go back to staying in bed all day for 17 hours & refuse to get up, not eat or drink in that time. Then would only eat crisps, cake, choc & drink wine. She isn't aware of danger anymore & would climb onto furniture to reach for things & leave frying pan on & walk away etc. There is no way I could let her do that again or have the worry of her back home. It's just very hard to know what to say to her each time she asks me. If we told her she's there to stay, she would understandably react very badly. She's physically fit & as her memory is bad, forgets every time we tell her anything. So she thinks there is nothing wrong with her & should be going home. I'd be very grateful for any suggestions please