One of the benefits of my wife's move into residential care is that I no longer need to concern myself with her son's movements and moods. Not having to deal with him since our estrangement 18 months ago has been a blessing and massive stress reliever. The only reason for keeping in touch with him via his wife was to make arrangements for his extremely rare visits to see his Mam. Now that she is as happy in her new home as she was when living with me, he can visit her at will without any need to bother me. I have heard from her sister (aka the grapevine) that he might be coming to visit my wife on Thursday or Friday this week, but he is as likely to cancel as he is to come. I'll just need to be wary, as the last thing I want is to run into him at the care home and to be treated to his particular style of uninformed criticism. My wife has fitted in well to her new accommodation. I am hoping that he has enough sense not to antagonise the lovely staff with his habitual sounding off before heading back to London and leaving me to deal with any repercussions.