I see that but I don’t feel that as he seems to be emotionally intact, I seem to be the only one that can see it. He still wants to love me, be with me, cuddle up. He knows something is different between us but he doesn’t know it’s his behaviour, his dementia. He thinks I don’t love him anymore and so thinks I want him in a home to get rid. Him being in a home is like me telling him I want a divorce. XIt's not your fault. He's in there because of his behavior (which understandably would make anyone upset) and his behavior is because of the disease dementia. Dementia is the reason he's in there and we all have to keep reminding each other it's no one's fault. It's a disease that is so terrible on more than just the one inflicted.