Hi.
I have been a member for a while. Mum has Alzheimers, is 70, is on medication, lives on her own in a lovely bungalow which is warden assisted, has lots of friends, and does lots.
We went over for tea last night and put her decorations up for her. Tea was not brilliant (but we told her it was lovely). The meat was undercooked and had to go back in the oven, the vegetables were overcooked and she had put them on too early and had to turn them off so they went cold, she had put the kettle on too early for the gravy so the gravy was luke warm. But hey, we ate it and just being with her was lovely.
She has bought lots of cards for friends and family and keeps forgetting to send them. She has bought presents for friends and keeps forgetting what she has bought and who they are for. We laugh about it and she laughs too. I help her as much as I can, and take time off work as much as I can, and my sister helps too.
But why? Why does my mum have to have this. She used to do everything for the family, used to look after my dad, used to be a PA, used to drive everywhere, used to know what was going on.
It hurts to see mum like this, it hurts so much. But she is happy and that is what keeps me going.
I love her so much and am really scared that she is going to get worse and end up in a home, which I know will destroy her. I don't want this to happen, but I know it may.
Live can sometimes be so cruel, and at this moment in time I think it is cruel.
xx
I have been a member for a while. Mum has Alzheimers, is 70, is on medication, lives on her own in a lovely bungalow which is warden assisted, has lots of friends, and does lots.
We went over for tea last night and put her decorations up for her. Tea was not brilliant (but we told her it was lovely). The meat was undercooked and had to go back in the oven, the vegetables were overcooked and she had put them on too early and had to turn them off so they went cold, she had put the kettle on too early for the gravy so the gravy was luke warm. But hey, we ate it and just being with her was lovely.
She has bought lots of cards for friends and family and keeps forgetting to send them. She has bought presents for friends and keeps forgetting what she has bought and who they are for. We laugh about it and she laughs too. I help her as much as I can, and take time off work as much as I can, and my sister helps too.
But why? Why does my mum have to have this. She used to do everything for the family, used to look after my dad, used to be a PA, used to drive everywhere, used to know what was going on.
It hurts to see mum like this, it hurts so much. But she is happy and that is what keeps me going.
I love her so much and am really scared that she is going to get worse and end up in a home, which I know will destroy her. I don't want this to happen, but I know it may.
Live can sometimes be so cruel, and at this moment in time I think it is cruel.
xx