Dad came out of hospital three months ago with a care package of carers calling three times per day to assist with dressing and bathing and to ensure he eats, as that's why he was in hospital. From day one he has been nasty and awkward to these ladies, refusing to let them in the bathroom and more recently to cook his breakfast, for health and safety they stand near to ensure he doesn't burn himself and that he turns the cooker off, they also clean up in the kitchen after he has finished. More recently he has refused to do anything while they are in the kitchen telling them to get in the room and clean that's what he pays them for. A good part of their job is washing his clothes and bedding three or four times per week (1 and 2) he refuses to wear the pads provided and sometimes he soils his trousers a couple of times per day and just puts them in the washer, last week I got it all over my hands removing things from the washer. He refuses to admit he has a problem last week he said he fell in the garden and got dog dirt on them, these poor ladies are rinsing his clothes out before they put them in the washer. We now think he has stopped showering as he has started to smell very bad, we think he is going in the bathroom and running the shower but not getting in. I live near and call round most days, I can walk into a row almost every time, he accuses me of being after his money and of conspiring to put him in a home. Final straw today his carer called me in tears, he wouldn't let her past the kitchen told her he paid her wages and not to come into his house again as she was useless . I called straight round and he swore at her for telling tales and not to bother coming back again, he accused me of only being after his money and at that stage I told the lady to leave and we left him too it. He is 88 and has had dementia for four years, I have looked after him for 12 years since Mum died I don't think I can manage much longer, can a person be placed in a home against their will? I know he would not go quietly