I've been living with my husband's aggression for nearly 5 years now but as his demetia progresses he seems to have less & less control over his actions. In the past I always felt he wouldn't hurt me now I'm not so sure. He had me in a head lock recently & will lunge at me in full rage so I keep my distance & out of the way. It's mainly in the evening it happens. He's managed to break 3 doors by slamming them, break the door surround & we have numerous cracks in the plaster. Our neighbour phoned the other evening as she was so concerned about my safety.
He's under a Mental Health practitioner & he's tried various medications but they either have bad side effects or don't work very well. Last night I emailed him to say I think my OH needs to go to an assessment unit but this morning when everything is so calm I'm feeling really guilty for having done so. The problem is I don't know what's causing it - my husband has non-fluent asphasia so even if he knows he can't tell me. All I know is he seems frightened.
I really don't know what to do for the best but I understand and sympathise with the feeling of guilt. We can't help the way we feel. Why does life have to be so hard?
He's under a Mental Health practitioner & he's tried various medications but they either have bad side effects or don't work very well. Last night I emailed him to say I think my OH needs to go to an assessment unit but this morning when everything is so calm I'm feeling really guilty for having done so. The problem is I don't know what's causing it - my husband has non-fluent asphasia so even if he knows he can't tell me. All I know is he seems frightened.
I really don't know what to do for the best but I understand and sympathise with the feeling of guilt. We can't help the way we feel. Why does life have to be so hard?