Dad is 82 and along with me the only other family ( I am an only child) we have been caring from Mum for 8 years now at home.
Dad has been with Mum for 60 years and throughout her illness has done everything possible to care for her. 14 months ago I gave up work to support him as it was obvious to Al that he was struggling. He would however never admit to this.
Life has got really bad over the last 6 months and I could see we were heading for trouble. Despite begging him to have help in, or consider a home we have continued on because he really doesn't to be without her.
Last week end disaster struck she fell and has broken her pelvis. It has been a nightmare in hospital , the rehabilitation unit she is in are failing to get meds in her because she gets so stressed so I am sitting in the ward from 10 till 6 and then returning at 22:00 to complete administering her meds. I am more than happy to do this and apart from the late night visit Dad is there sitting with her all day long.
I have discussed nursing home options again and he is getting More and more heartbroken. I am breaking myself as I too do not want this to happen, but cannot see the alternatives of hospital beds and carers in their small house being an option.
I really don't know how to console him . I am concerned for both their welfare but feel I am destroying him, I just don't know what to do
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Dad has been with Mum for 60 years and throughout her illness has done everything possible to care for her. 14 months ago I gave up work to support him as it was obvious to Al that he was struggling. He would however never admit to this.
Life has got really bad over the last 6 months and I could see we were heading for trouble. Despite begging him to have help in, or consider a home we have continued on because he really doesn't to be without her.
Last week end disaster struck she fell and has broken her pelvis. It has been a nightmare in hospital , the rehabilitation unit she is in are failing to get meds in her because she gets so stressed so I am sitting in the ward from 10 till 6 and then returning at 22:00 to complete administering her meds. I am more than happy to do this and apart from the late night visit Dad is there sitting with her all day long.
I have discussed nursing home options again and he is getting More and more heartbroken. I am breaking myself as I too do not want this to happen, but cannot see the alternatives of hospital beds and carers in their small house being an option.
I really don't know how to console him . I am concerned for both their welfare but feel I am destroying him, I just don't know what to do
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