Hi, I really glad to find this forum. I am a "carer" although I don't live with my mum who has dementia. I am writing to ask if anyone has difficulty with a parent with Alzheimers who is really difficult psychologically. The problem is that my mum has always been really difficult to deal with and I have always had to give her lots of emotional support, right from being a child. It is really hard for me trying to do things for her as she resists help, won't wash or allow anyone to wash her (she has a carer who is really good but can't do it either). She can be really abusive and violent, and although I am sure this is exacerbated by her current condition, it is really difficult for me as I have had to deal with her very difficult behaviour all my life and I actually can't cope. I am not really sure what to do, I visit her every week, but am finding myself getting ill regularly, not being able to visit (all her needs are dealt with by the carer etc) but I feel terrible. I am not an only child but have a brother who does virtually nothing and is also abusive back to me and we have no family. Sorry to rant but I just wondered if anyone can offer me any advice. I have had some advice from carer support but I feel I need someone to do more physical things to help my mum, which I just can't do.
thanks, E
thanks, E