Hi,
For those of you who are at or have already past the stage of putting a loved one into a care home, how did you decide it was the right time? Apart from obvious things like leaving the gas on, wandering/getting lost etc, what were your reasons for deciding the time was right?
My mum still lives on her own and isn't doing anything that particularly makes her unsafe, but she worries and mothers a lot and we generally can't get her interested in doing anything. She told a relative last week "I just can't be bothered to do anything any more". That makes me feel really sad for her because physically, she is fairly healthy. She has always been very opposed to going into a home and she still wouldn't do so voluntarily, even though I do think she would benefit mentally from the constant presence of other people and from activities. Unfortunately, we all work full time so can't be with her all the time, although one of us goes to see her pretty much every day. She phones me a lot, and worries about me/us even more e.g. if it's raining/cold/dark.
I just don't know whether by thinking about a care home, I'm thinking more about making my/our life easier (which makes me feel guilty) or more about making life better/more enjoyable for mum.....
For those of you who are at or have already past the stage of putting a loved one into a care home, how did you decide it was the right time? Apart from obvious things like leaving the gas on, wandering/getting lost etc, what were your reasons for deciding the time was right?
My mum still lives on her own and isn't doing anything that particularly makes her unsafe, but she worries and mothers a lot and we generally can't get her interested in doing anything. She told a relative last week "I just can't be bothered to do anything any more". That makes me feel really sad for her because physically, she is fairly healthy. She has always been very opposed to going into a home and she still wouldn't do so voluntarily, even though I do think she would benefit mentally from the constant presence of other people and from activities. Unfortunately, we all work full time so can't be with her all the time, although one of us goes to see her pretty much every day. She phones me a lot, and worries about me/us even more e.g. if it's raining/cold/dark.
I just don't know whether by thinking about a care home, I'm thinking more about making my/our life easier (which makes me feel guilty) or more about making life better/more enjoyable for mum.....