When I went in to see mum a couple of weeks ago she was in a bad way, shouting, screaming, thumping her fist on the chair and pulling her hair out. She also was throwing her food (sandwiches) at the carer who brought it in to her. She tipped her drink on her table and he had to clear everything up. I couldn't cope with all this and came away after about 15 minutes trying to stay composed. When I got home (luckily only a five minute drive) I burst into tears.
When I went in last week she seemed better, no screaming or fist thumping or food throwing. However when my uncle visited last Friday she was back to throwing things. I am going in to see her this afternoon and am dreading it as I usually do now. She has been sat in a chair in her room every day for weeks and has nothing but the TV to keep her occupied (although she gets muddled with who is on it). We were told before she was moved into this unit that it would be better for her as they have activities, but I haven't seen much evidence of this, just a session of bingo a few months ago. They do try to take some of them out but mum refused to go recently which was a shame, as it was a garden centre and she loves plants and flowers.
We have been told that she is on a drug to help her but as she is not eating much it is taking time to work. They have had to do it covertly as she was spitting out her medication. Its all so sad as mum was extremely active even just 18 months ago, church twice a week, shopping with me and visiting her friends, driving etc. To see her reduced to sitting in a room all day is heartbreaking.
When I went in last week she seemed better, no screaming or fist thumping or food throwing. However when my uncle visited last Friday she was back to throwing things. I am going in to see her this afternoon and am dreading it as I usually do now. She has been sat in a chair in her room every day for weeks and has nothing but the TV to keep her occupied (although she gets muddled with who is on it). We were told before she was moved into this unit that it would be better for her as they have activities, but I haven't seen much evidence of this, just a session of bingo a few months ago. They do try to take some of them out but mum refused to go recently which was a shame, as it was a garden centre and she loves plants and flowers.
We have been told that she is on a drug to help her but as she is not eating much it is taking time to work. They have had to do it covertly as she was spitting out her medication. Its all so sad as mum was extremely active even just 18 months ago, church twice a week, shopping with me and visiting her friends, driving etc. To see her reduced to sitting in a room all day is heartbreaking.