Hello I am new to the forum and I am hoping that someone can help. My mother in law is fiercely independent and does not want to go into a care home, she overheard a telephone conversation with one of my relatives and a care home making an appointment and came out really cross and saying she was not going to one. The problem is, she needs the 24 hour care, currently in her own home, she has started going out, not locking the house, last time she was found wandering out, early in the morning, not dressed for the weather. Despite home carers and frequent family visits, I am really concerned for her safety and security. She is no longer capable of looking after herself, and it is desperately sad and difficult. Please can anyone give any advice on how is best to encourage her to accept the idea of care home and how to get her there, we can't physically force her there against her will. I don't even know that even if we could get her there, that she would go in. She needs to be protected and safe that has to be our primary consideration and this just isn't possible in her own home, despite the enormous emotional distress knowing she doesn't want to go is having on us all.