Some advice please. My wife is only 65 but is now severely affected by Alzheimer's and we are looking seriously at a care home. But me and the kids (youngest early 20's) don't really know what we feel and I do worry about the youngest as he has lived with his mum's dementia since a young teenager. It is like my OH has left us, is gone to some degree but she is still walking around and looks like her old self, but she really does not know us anymore. What can we do, we feel like we are in limbo. There are no big events or things just an even and slow decline, but maybe going to the care home is a landmark. Someone suggested doing a 'Shiva' or some kind of wake where we might get together and look at pictures etc. Or is that morbid? To be frank I am having trouble remembering my wife when she was well, the AD has been going on so long and I want somehow to remember the lively, smart person she was. Any ideas or suggestions?