Hi,
I’m new to the group and wanted advice on how to support my parents.
Just a bit of background on my situation:
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a year ago but has been symptomatic for the last 3/4 years. It took us a long time to get him diagnosed due to a combination of a stubborn middle aged man and Covid (unable to get appointments or go with him etc.)
My mother is not physically well. She has advanced rheumatoid arthritis and a number of other autoimmune conditions. She was diagnosed 42 years ago so my dad has always been the ‘well one’, so his diagnosis has hit us all hard.
My dad has all the right support in place and medication is hopefully doing what it’s meant to, however he will not engage in talking therapies at all (again stubborn middle aged man!)
My mum is very much struggling with coping with my dad, the changes in his personality and her own health. I have encouraged her to seek support for her own mental health and wellbeing. This week she finally agreed and was going to speak to her GP but she told my dad and he became so upset. He does not want her going and ‘talking about him’ as he see’s it and now she’s not going to go ahead with this.
I’m trying the best I can to be there for them both, support them around the house and be someone they can lean on and listen to their frustrations however I don’t know what to say for the best anymore. I want to support them both but feel I need more help than I can give. Plus I think talking to someone independent is so beneficial.
Any advice on how to raise this subject again without upsetting either of them?
Sorry about the long post!
I’m new to the group and wanted advice on how to support my parents.
Just a bit of background on my situation:
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a year ago but has been symptomatic for the last 3/4 years. It took us a long time to get him diagnosed due to a combination of a stubborn middle aged man and Covid (unable to get appointments or go with him etc.)
My mother is not physically well. She has advanced rheumatoid arthritis and a number of other autoimmune conditions. She was diagnosed 42 years ago so my dad has always been the ‘well one’, so his diagnosis has hit us all hard.
My dad has all the right support in place and medication is hopefully doing what it’s meant to, however he will not engage in talking therapies at all (again stubborn middle aged man!)
My mum is very much struggling with coping with my dad, the changes in his personality and her own health. I have encouraged her to seek support for her own mental health and wellbeing. This week she finally agreed and was going to speak to her GP but she told my dad and he became so upset. He does not want her going and ‘talking about him’ as he see’s it and now she’s not going to go ahead with this.
I’m trying the best I can to be there for them both, support them around the house and be someone they can lean on and listen to their frustrations however I don’t know what to say for the best anymore. I want to support them both but feel I need more help than I can give. Plus I think talking to someone independent is so beneficial.
Any advice on how to raise this subject again without upsetting either of them?
Sorry about the long post!