My mother has dementia and I live with her and my dad. As they are both 87 I am actually caring for both of them. My brother comes and stays often (he doesn’t have a family of his own either) I don’t really talk to him because he has been quite unpleasant to me for a few years now. A couple of problems have arisen. He has been diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and might need to move in with us. And my mum has started to complain about me to him - I’m bossy, I don’t let her make her own decisions etc. what he doesn’t realise is that her complaints aren’t really rational. If I let her make her own decisions she’d be going to the shops in her dressing gown! My brother has always disapproved of me because I’m an extrovert unlike him - loud and talkative. After years of depression I’ve started to like myself again but if he moves in I’m going to crumble under the constant disapproval. I’m actually much closer to my parents than he is and I was a teacher for 20 years and I know how to take care of people. Any advice on how to handle the situation?