My sister lives alone. I am her sole relative. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago. She is very independent. I persuaded her to accept an agency calling in once a day whilst I was out of the country. She refused to let them her help with meal preparation. I am fairly sure she can't use the microwave, and probably not the oven. Even the hob is a problem. We are due a review with the agency and all she says is that she doesn't want to continue with them. On Sat the agency rang me to tell me that she thought I was collecting her to take for a meal for her birthday. This isn't for 3 weeks. She wouldn't let them make a meal. I went over. She told me she could sort a meal out but in the end she was struggling to work it out. She lost her driving licence in Dec which hit her hard and she now has unrealistic plans to go travelling in March. She can't use a mobile phone, read a timetable, use the internet. etc I want to support her independence for as long as it is feasible but can't get her to accept anything even carrying ID