For the past two years my mum has been slowly declining due to AD in a lovely nursing home. She's now bedridden and unable to do anything for herself The staff are lovely but let's get real, if it takes 45 minutes to give her a cup of tea, a smoothie and a milk jelly then that's a big drain on the staff. I think it's time to instigate a carer to be allocated to her at mealtimes. Financially, mum's deal is that she tips up her pensions, and the remainder of her care is paid for by SS + the nursing element. I'm wary of rattling the wrong door in the first instance. Any advice or pointers would be gratefully received.