Hello everyone
So lots has happened, the upshot is its been agreed that he does have to go into a residential care home. We've found one very close to us that can take him, no top up fees (turns out Mum and Dads savings are below the limit so it will be funded) and its lovely, I got a really nice first impression. They cook the meals onsite, its a 28 bed place so not too big or small, hed be sharing a room with another bloke which might be nice for him. I can take my dog to visit, kids are always welcome, we can have dinner/tea there for a small donation, its got lovely gardens that are always accessible. Its right near a park, they do regular outings, the activities calendar I saw had something on every single day. It's just like a big house. Got a really good feeling off the carers there, the manager is lovely and very reassuring. And its had great reviews and one of the best CQC reports for the area.
So why am I wobbling?
He'd be the youngest, most active one there, when we went all the other residents were either just sat in chairs with teddy bears or taking part in what looked like a lovely 'memory' session discussing the old pound notes etc, they all looked about 15 years older than him.......I'm so worried hes going to hate it and wonder if hed be better off in one of the more modern ones, but there again they look too much like hospital, and I want him to feel settled and comfortable. not like a visitor.......athough the moden one near us had a terrible very recent CQC report which flagged up a number of dangers (not checking meds had been taken, unsafe practices etc)
Saying that Im under no illusions though that its entirely possible as soon as we left they all got off their chairs and starting wandering about themselves and being as mischevious as Dad.
I guess if he hates it we can move him?
So lots has happened, the upshot is its been agreed that he does have to go into a residential care home. We've found one very close to us that can take him, no top up fees (turns out Mum and Dads savings are below the limit so it will be funded) and its lovely, I got a really nice first impression. They cook the meals onsite, its a 28 bed place so not too big or small, hed be sharing a room with another bloke which might be nice for him. I can take my dog to visit, kids are always welcome, we can have dinner/tea there for a small donation, its got lovely gardens that are always accessible. Its right near a park, they do regular outings, the activities calendar I saw had something on every single day. It's just like a big house. Got a really good feeling off the carers there, the manager is lovely and very reassuring. And its had great reviews and one of the best CQC reports for the area.
So why am I wobbling?
He'd be the youngest, most active one there, when we went all the other residents were either just sat in chairs with teddy bears or taking part in what looked like a lovely 'memory' session discussing the old pound notes etc, they all looked about 15 years older than him.......I'm so worried hes going to hate it and wonder if hed be better off in one of the more modern ones, but there again they look too much like hospital, and I want him to feel settled and comfortable. not like a visitor.......athough the moden one near us had a terrible very recent CQC report which flagged up a number of dangers (not checking meds had been taken, unsafe practices etc)
Saying that Im under no illusions though that its entirely possible as soon as we left they all got off their chairs and starting wandering about themselves and being as mischevious as Dad.
I guess if he hates it we can move him?